Year 2013-Just Married

Past one year, I forget to update the blog. Because, I was in a state of extreme happiness. Because, some major changes took place in 2013- From just daughter I became daughter-in-law. Yes, I got married!!!

On 18 November 2013, I tied knots with Mr. S.D Choudhury, a best friend of mine. My dearest friend is now my loving husband. This is such a beautiful relation, where you find a caring husband in your friend; he who understands my feeling, tries to fulfill my dream, loves me in pain and comforts me round-the-clock.

With him, my life is changing its way, almost, everyday. Though, sometime, the changes go out of mind and heart. A new life has started to roll out...

Being Women- A Curse or Blessing

My writing today will go against my blog title 'Daily Life in Style' because...my daily life will not allow me to live in style; because, I'm afraid of my existence in this world; because, I'M A WOMAN.

The gang rape incident that took place in 16th December 2012 has left me in a state of shock. While surfing my Facebook account, I came across the brutal incident faced by Damini in the capital city. For a minute, my mind was totally blank. Several questions came into my mind, like why did this happen, what was  her fault, where were the people around, how could so many human do so much bad to a human.....

I don't know her, I have never seen her but I could feel her pain, the helpless situation that she has gone through. And, after a while, my soul said, God, please help her. May the criminals be hanged till death.

Like me, she might also have many dreams associated with her parents, her siblings, her boyfriend, her friends. But now, would she be able to withstand the storm that shattered her inside out? Will the people around take care of her, entire life? That day, she nor the entire world could have even sensed that the animals in the society were making their mood to stripe off the respect of a woman and bringing down the many dreams to death. Those animals are the outcome of 'No Justice or Low Justice' done till date for the many such rape cases in the country.

I'm yet to recover my mind from the Guwahati women molestation case where a teenage girl was molested by rowdy mob of 50; I'm yet to come out of the pain of Faisalabad girl whose face and body parts were burnt badly; I'm yet to wipe of my tears for Damini, that two new rape cases flashed before me today. Will my eyes remain to weep forever? Do I have to bear the pain of being disrespectful forever?

Who do I ask to bring me a life full of happiness; a face full of smile? Who do I ask, if my life as a woman a curse?

(Image Courtesy: northeasttoday.in)

June 24- My Best Friend Got Married

It’s been 12 years now that I know you dear and, it’s been 10 years that we’re best friends. You may have many people around, but I have only one and you know very well that it’s none other than you. I’m sorry dear; I could not be with you on your special day. I couldn’t sit beside you in the most important day of your life.

How do I show my regret for my absence in your wedding ceremony? I still remember those days when we used to make plans to be with each other in our special time. And, till the last few months back when you came to my home in Delhi, we did the same. Dear, we had wonderful moments to be cherished forever. Though, I was the first person among friends to know about your marriage date, I could not keep up with my words.

I failed to pass in this exam. I failed to proof myself as your best friend.

I’m missing you a lot my dear. I know, you must be looking very nice just like a dream angel in this world. Your hand must have glittering with colorful mehendi and you must be lightening the surrounding with your ever-beautiful smile. For sure, my Jiju is the luckiest man to find my best friend in his life.

Now, that I’m far away from you, I can only pray to my Good God that may you lead a happy married life, may all your dreams come true, may you be happy always.

I know, you will not forgive me and I think you should not forgive me for this. I’m ready to stand any kind of punishment, you’ll decide. Eagerly waiting to meet you this October…….

Loads of Hugs and Kisses.............

Yours’ truly disgusting friend

My Assam is at Faridabad Now

I feel so very happy, when I find the imprint of my homeland. This time, my Assam has come to meet me in Faridabad (Haryana). This beautiful state among the seven sisters of North-East India is known for its sprawling tea gardens, mighty Brahmaputra, handicrafts and unique culture.

Last week, I saw an electronic advertisement about Assam Tourism and was mesmerized to see the collage of my state’s beauty, my people and their colorful culture. And, now see, how lucky I’m to find my home miles away from my home. Well, I’m talking about the on-going Surajkund Mela 2012. The colorful extravaganza is highlighting the vibrant culture of Assam this time.

Like every year, the Surajkund Craft Fair is successfully attracted lakhs of tourists from various countries. But, I’ll feel the festive ground will receive more number of foot-steps so has to take back home some brilliant collection of ‘Assamese Meghala’, ‘Assam Tea Leaves’, Handicraft items etc. I have also heard that the mela ground will occupy stores for different varieties of rice & grains, commonly produced in Assam.

I’m not gonna miss this 15-days event. Can you afford to miss it??

Bengali Marriage- Rituals unending

It is said that matrimonial affairs are predetermind by the Almighty in Heaven. Apart from the would-be couples, many things lie around and off-course, they are untouched by heavenly rules and regulations. We human beings are the creator of certain rituals, although most of them are dedicated to the God and Goddesses for the well-being of the newly wed couples. Get a snippet of what our ancestors have kept in store for us in the form of Bengali marriage:

• Bhaikyo Daan
• Mangalacharan
• Pano Khili
• Soroshmatrika Puja
• Rooposhi Borto
• Adhrisnaan
• Adhibhash
• Shaka-Shindur
• Shubho Vivah
• Baashi Biya @ Bride's house with Holi celebration
• Vidhai
• Putra-vadhu Agaman
• Kaal Ratri
• Baashi Biya @ Groom's house with Holi celebration
• Chaturtamangal
• Introducing bride with custom and tradition
• Phira Jatra
• Sweet Honeymoon
• A happy married life begins

I'm gonna write a breif about all the above mentioned rituals...Till then, stay tunned!